When you are growing up you think you will be friends forever. BFF’s and all that jazz. You will go off to college together, be in each others weddings, and your children will be best friends and grow up together. In reality this rarely happens.
Personally I have a few friends that are “old friends”, ones I’ve been friends with for years, such as my blogging partner. But many of the girls I was closest to 10 years ago are not even in my life now.
Sometimes you have to make a decision to cut ties with those friends and go your separate ways. That’s never an easy thing to do.
I truly believe that you reach a point in life when you have to step back and take a look at your relationships. Is that person holding you back? Dragging you down? An emotional drain?
I had one friend in particular that had been in my life for years. I grew up but she didn’t. Finally there came a point where the 4am drunken phone calls and beating on my door in the middle of the night, when I had to be up at 6am for work, were just to much. I admit the “breakup” with this friend was brutal and involved me crying. When I get mad that’s what I do, I cry. But it was something that needed to happen.
Have you had a friend breakup? What led up to it? How did you handle the situation? We would love to hear your stories.
How to Know When Its Time to End a Friendship
1. Your “friend” uses you as a doormat. What do I mean by this? They have no respect for you. The relationship is all about them and what they want. I had a friend who would call me and expect me to drop everything and go do whatever she wanted. Whether it was going out to eat, shopping, or just running around, she expected me to be at her beck and call. It didn’t matter if I said “no”. She would show up at my house anyways.
2. They take advantage of you. Whether its your time, talent, resources or bank account, its all about what you can do for them.
3. You are emotionally exhausted after being around this person.
4. When this friendship causes problems in other areas of your life. I had a friend who would show up at my job and hang out. I worked in a very relaxed environment but when her presence caused problems for our customers she had to go. She didn’t like it when I told her she couldn’t come to my job and actually quit speaking to me. Evidently our friendship didn’t mean much to her anyways!
5. When your life is in danger its time to say goodbye. Different people have different lifestyles. When their lifestyle effects your life in such a way that you are in danger or feel that you may be in danger you know its time to walk away.