The Narcissist truly believes he has done nothing wrong to me and because of this, I really hate having to deal with him on any level (he’s cheated on and screwed over so many people in his life that he’s oblivious to the fact that he turned my world upside down. Nor does he care. In fact, word on the street is that he is already cheating on his current girlfriend. No sacrifice on his part, as long as HE’S happy, there’s not a problem.) Of course at this point, our relationship is simply a professional one. We have a child together and I only feel the need to be in contact with him when 1) something serious is going on and 2) issues regarding child support/attorney involvement.
Which brings me to this post. I wish I could have these written up by my attorney as rules for contact. Don’t comment on my hair. Or my car. Or what I might be wearing. Do not write “LOL” in a text message. Refrain from texting me details of your life. I don’t care why you’re late, just let me know you’re going to be late. We are not friends, I do not care about the mundane details of your life. Nor do I care to learn in conversation how your new girlfriends ex husband was an alcoholic and how he owes way too much in back child support. (Just because you’re thousands behind doesn’t justify it because someone else is too- shes stupid for not putting him in jail.) Or how the girl he cheated on me with was beat by her husband and that’s why she used him as an escape from her marriage. (Why he feels the need to say these things- Lawdy, what is he saying about ME to other people!)
Dealing with the Narcissist is about as pleasant as getting a root canal. I have to put up with things like this: I had photos made of my son, mistakenly (to be nice) gave him a couple of the photos, I get a text because he wants more. Really? Why don’t you offer to pay for half. In the same drop off/pick up, I asked him to bring him to me since he was early and I was just about a mile away buying my son an Easter outfit. Nope. I have to come to him, even though I’ve made concessions for him to help when his other child was sick. Time to stop being nice. The road to hell is paved with good intentions.
I am still breastfeeding my son, which I’m really proud of because he is almost ten months old. The Narcissist ALWAYS sends the bottle back which contains pumped milk at least half full. Is he wasting my breastmilk out of spite? As of late I’ve started sending less milk on his day, about six ounces. How much do I send to the babysitter any given day? Around twelve ounces. That alone burns me up. At one point the Narcissist accused me in a court document of purposefully “not sending enough milk on his days.” Really? If I wanted to be nasty, I could accuse him right now of not feeding him appropriately. When Boo Boo Bear doesn’t get his “milk quota” he keeps me up nursing way more than he should be at this age. It is very frustrating to say the least.
Seventeen years and two months more of this. I’m not counting or anything.