In today’s world text messaging often becomes our main source of communication. This is true for my husband and I. Recently he took a job in another state and is away from home from Sunday thru Friday. This really cuts down on the amount of time we spend together. Our conversations are usually limited to phone calls and text messages. Because our work schedules overlap we communicate a lot by text messages.
This could lead to problems and communication breakdown. It can often be hard to distinguish the tone of the message when you are communicating by text messages.
Recently my husband and I have had some conversations where he thought I was saying something that I wasn’t or vice versa. Thankfully we have a stable relationship and are not quick to jump the gun. But situations like that could lead to arguments and strife within a marriage.
Without body language, the sound and tone of our voices, touch and emotions we lose that level of closeness and intimacy within a marriage. Text messages just don’t convey those messages the same way. Yes, it’s nice to get a message from my husband in the middle of the day just to tell me he loves me, but it’s even better to hear his voice tell me that.
If you find yourself in a situation where text messages are causing communication breakdown in your marriage or relationship, it’s important to sit down with your spouse and outline some rules for communication. Here are a few examples:
* Important issues should be talked about face to face, not via text message. Don’t try to resolve conflict thru text messages.
* Use text messaging to send your random thoughts of love and admiration or appreciation for your spouse.
* Don’t snap at your spouse, even if they are the one that snapped at you first.
* Don’t send angry text messages. Take a few minutes to calm down and compose yourself before typing that message.