What has text messaging, and social media in general, done to dating?
Text messaging has really changed dating and not particularly for the better. It has really changed relationships in that no real voice to voice communication is necessary anymore. If someone does not respond to their texts immediately, offense is taken. Who texts first in any given interaction? Fights are conducted via text with no passion, just quick fingers and anger behind text messages. Feelings of love or indifference are communicated with word alone, as quickly as your network will allow. It is part of the microwave society that we live in these days.
When I became single from the debacle with the Narcissist, a man began communicating with me. Instead of texting, he wanted to actually call me and talk on the phone. Because I had become so accustomed to the convenience of texting, I thought it was odd. In fact, I took offense because I almost felt he was trying to inconvenience me. When on Earth would I find time to actually *speak* to someone? How dare they!
There are some days, because of text messaging, that my friends and I don’t even speak on the phone, we merely text message the day away, sadly enough. Because my parents do not text, we probably do not communicate as much as we could. My daughter and her friends text all the time. I can’t imagine growing up in a society where people text, have access to Facebook, Twitter, blogs, electronic media, and all information is at their fingertips. It is amazing to me. Our children are growing up in an entirely different way than we did.
Text messaging allows for constant communication, an all-day conversation that is stored in your phone for future reference. It is very valuable in that context if say, you are in the midst of a court battle and one party cannot control themselves and constantly incriminate themselves via text. The courts have evolved to use text messaging and social media outlets as a form of evidence, building their cases against the other party. Think that once something is erased by you that it’s gone? Nope! Records can be pulled by your cell phone company with a simple court subpoena. It is that easy.
I remember the days of spending hours on the phone with my love interests as a teenager and in my early 20’s, hearing the voices, emotion, tone of voice… Those days seem to be done. Because of the lack of emotion, marriages have been destroyed, feelings are diminished…infidelity becomes much easier. Is it merely a symptom of the society we live in?
Unfortunately it seems that way.
Have any of you had any experiences, positive or negative, with the evolution of texting and relationships? I am very curious to hear your stories!