I moved away from The Narcissist last July 31st. I found out he was cheating on July 27th, went to a friend’s house to stay for the weekend, and began hunting for apartments that Monday morning. I took the first place that was acceptable enough to get locked into a year lease and was within my newly single income single mom budget. Factor in bills, rent, attorney and moving fees- my budget was tiny. I’ve been here for ten months now and I cannot wait to get out. My electric bill has been no less than $150 each and every month. There were bugs when I first moved in. The landlord acts like you are at fault when something goes wrong. Twice my air conditioner has pooped out…and somehow it has been my fault. Moving this soon, only one year after a traumatic move, is not my ideal situation, but it is necessary in my life right now.
Instead of complaining further, I am moving out. What steps am I taking? Here they are for you, just in case you’re in the same place I am with needing to move.
1. Find a place to live that is within your budget. Most places have applicants pay a fee and fill out an application. Do this a couple months in advance.
2. If a credit check is required and your credit is terrible, find someone who can trust that you will actually pay your bills and ask them to be a co-signer for you. Be up front with the landlord about your credit status. A bad credit history may be overlooked if you have a solid payment history with your current landlord.
3. Are you going to ask friends to help move or hire movers? Go ahead and get pricing from companies as well as U-Haul trucks to see which option is going to work best for you.
4. Save for your deposit. Many of the places I have been looking at charge a deposit the same amount as the first month rent. Make sure you know what is expected that needs to be paid up front. Moves are costly. Don’t let it be a financial burden.
5. If you have children, check out school districts. This can be a huge deciding factor for a move!
6. Drive around the neighborhoods you are looking at and make sure they are not high crime areas. You may also want to check the sex offender registry to ensure you’re not moving in next to one.
7.Want your current deposit back? Leave the place in better condition than you moved in. The place I live now was disgusting when I moved here. The kitchen and bathrooms were so dirty. It still does not feel completely clean to me, the floor is the color “dirty.” It makes me sick.
8. As soon as possible, obtain boxes if you are doing the move yourself. It’s tough getting boxes at the last minute for a move. Back when we did Girl Scout cookies I collected the boxes from everyone’s cookie cases. I have already packed a lot of books from my book shelves and some non-necessary items. Hopefully by the time July gets here I will be ahead of the game.
9. Be sure to fill out a change of address form at the post office.
10. Change your address for all of your online and magazine services. Post office change forms don’t last forever- only three months!
I will keep you updated on my moving saga. There will surely be more to write/vent/complain about as the move progresses!