As I’m writing this I’m sitting here watching the TLC series “Married By Mom and Dad”. The premise of this show is that someone gives their parents total control in choosing their husband or wife. In this new TLC series which is labeled as a new “social experiment”, the parents choose from several potential candidates by watching videos and then eventually meeting the potential mate. The parents then decide on a husband or wife for their son or daughter.
I love my parents and I trust them but I don’t know if I would be okay with them choosing my husband. Here’s some reasons why I think it would be a bad decision to be Married By Mom and Dad.
5 Reasons Why Being Married By Mom and Dad is a Bad Idea
1. People have different personalities
Each person is unique and has different personalities. The type of person that my parents might like may not be the type of person that I would want to spend the rest of my life with. That person may have certain personality traits that might not blend well with my personality.
2. Marriage is a Life Long Commitment
Marriage is a life long commitment that is not to be taken lightly. It is not a game, nor is it a reality tv show. While watching this show, several of the participants have made the comment that they would give it their best effort to make it work. One should never go into a marriage with the attitude that if it doesn’t work they can just walk away. I believe when you go into a life long relationship you should go in with the mindset that this is forever.
3. Pressure to Marry Your Parent’s Choice
I do value my parent’s opinion but if my parents were to choose a husband for me and it was not someone that I connected with I would feel pressured to go with their choice to avoid disappointing them.
4. You Miss the Dating Period
Dating is an important time in a relationship. It allows you to get to know each other and learn about each other. If your parents were to choose your spouse and you had to skip that dating period, you would not have the opportunity to bond with your potential spouse prior to getting married.
5. Marriage is Stressful Enough
In a normal relationship where a couple dates, is engaged and then gets married, the first few years of their marriage is stressful. I can not imagine how stressful it would be to be thrown into a relationship and living with someone that you really did not know. Had my husband and I got married right after meeting each other I am convinced that we would not have stayed married as long as we have. As you date someone and spend time with them you are investing your time and energy into the relationship. This investment helps keep you grounded and motivated to make the relationship work. Had I married my husband without that investment period I might not have been as committed to making our marriage work and it would have been easier to just walk away.
Do you think it’s a good idea to be Married By Mom and Dad? Would you let your parents choose your spouse?