Today I packed my husband up and sent him to his new job and his temporary home, an hour and a half away from me. We are planning on moving there but I’m still waiting on a transfer with my job. And we have to find a new home.
During our marriage there have been times that my husband and I have been away from each other for different reasons but for some reason sending him off today was harder than before. A couple of times today, while I was at work I forgot for awhile that I would be home alone tonight.
“What should I fix for dinner?” Oh yeah…it’s just going to be me and the dogs…dinner ended up being a PB&J sandwich and some carrots.
Being alone four nights a week will take some getting used to. Thankfully I have two doggies to keep me company, maybe the bed won’t feel so big and empty.
Making a long distance marriage work takes an effort on both partners. There are several things that spouses can do to make their relationship successful.
* Both partners should understand the reason for living apart and know that it is not an excuse to “get away from each other”.
* Make sure you understand who is responsible for things such as chores at home, financial decisions, bill paying, etc.
* Talk to your spouse often to make sure this arrangement is still working for them and you both.
* Keep the lines of communication open. Skype, text, picture messages, emails and phone calls are all great ways to stay in touch.
* There has to be total trust from both of you. The long distance arrangement will not work if both spouses do not fully trust each other.
* Be honest about your fear and concerns of being separated.
* Find ways to show your love to each other such as sending care packages, small gifts, emails, picture messages and even love letters through the mail.
Have you and your spouse dealt with a long distance relationship? What did you do to make the arrangement work? What did you do to keep the spark alive in your marriage?