Weddings are the pinnacle of dating awkwardness. My friend recently got upset because her new-ish boyfriend did not invite her to be his date to a wedding he was invited to.
What do you think of this? Others were telling her to break up with him, he should have taken her, blah blah blah. Why? Why should someone be obligated to bring a date to a wedding?
The advice I gave her was this:
I would not be upset at all. I have dated poeple who I didn’t want to bring to weddings. Why not? Because I didn’t want to introduce them and babysit them all night because they didn’t know the bride and groom or probably anyone else at the ceremony. Have you ever been someone’s date to a wedding where you knew no one? It is not the best time.
It seems that he already RSVP’d “one” to the event. It would be VERY rude of him to recant that to the couple, especially if they are paying for food, favors, had a seating chart for dinner…the list goes on and on. Planning a wedding is no small feat, and having an extra unvited guest show up is probably a bride’s nightmare.
The couple getting married already know when people RSVP how many guests they must order a cake, food, drink, favors, seats…my friend should not have gotten upset at her new beau, in fact, she should have commended him for handling the situation the way he did, aka, not bring her. Needless to say, this relationship did not last long pas the wedding because of this situation. The new boyfriend could not get over her demands to be invited to the wedding to a couple she did not know, and she could not stop bringing up what he thought was a breach in the dating elation ship.
I do not make it a rule to bring new relationships to weddings. Weddings are for celebrating your friend’s happy moment. I have been in relationships and have been invited to weddings, and have NOT brought a date for this reason. The couple getting married do not need the task of meeting someone new on their wedding day. They are focused on their relationship, not yours.
How do you handle this kind of situation? Do you bring dates to weddings that are perhaps new love interests? What are your thoughts?