Something terrible happened to me in 2012. Lifetime movie epic level terrible.
I was cheated on by the person I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. He began cheating on me when I was seven months pregnant with our son, and I found out when our son was two months old that he had been seeing her the whole time. How did I find out? By simply looking at his Facebook page.
There were clues along the way but I refused to acknowledge them. He slept with his phone in his pocket. Stayed “late at work.” Began acting distant and irritable. Fell asleep too many nights on the couch. The biggest clue: in May, sixteen days after our son was born, he said to me, “I’m not happy, it’s me, not you.” Of course it wasn’t ME. It was “the best sex” he ever had, so he told me at the end of July when I found out he was out with her one night. He came home at 3am, I began the line of questioning, and the truth came out. I called his mother…I made him call my dad to tell him what he did to me…I emailed HER HUSBAND…I informed all of our friends…and then I moved out. As soon as I could I called my attorney to get the custody and child support rolling.
I walked away. Just like that. No one makes a fool out of me. No way I was staying. A week after I moved out I learned “the best sex” he ever had found her way to greener pastures before i even moved out and quickly got engaged to her new guy. That in itself was satisfaction that he got what was coming to him.
Fast forward to present day…I unfortunately have to share custody of my precious baby with my ex. There has to be a good male role model in my life for him to look up to, because his father won’t be it. Because of the debacle of all the same guys being on every public dating site out there, I decided to join eHarmony.
I keep to encourage some of my single friends to join eHarmony as well. No way would I have ever done one of the free sites. You get what you pay for! From other friends who are members of match.com, the same people year after year are members, the clientele changes only occasionally, giving you essentially the same dating pool all the time. Eharmony actually weeds out some people you would never really mesh with right off the bat, only matching you with people who’s temperaments, values, and interests are similar to yours. Sure, there may not be chemistry, there’s always the chance for that, but there’s a greater chance of meeting someone on eHarmony than any other site. Just my opinion. Oh, and no one paid me to say all this either.