The Narcissist, AKA my ex, strikes again. I really am unsure how I’m going to be able to deal with him for seventeen more long years. I often wonder what I have done to deserve this. I must have slapped other people’s children on airplanes in another life. (Anyone hear about THAT? What a nut case!)
Anyway, my ex loves to have drama going on in his life. Things must be peaceful with his ex wife and his girlfriend, so he thought he might engage me in some cray cray. As a narcissist he loves to try to argue, because he feels his opinion is always right. In arguments he simply stomps his feet and tries to turn anything that is said around on the person he is having the verbal altercation with. One time while we were still together he told me he could out-argue any attorney. I had to laugh when he said that. In my side business I work with a lot of attorneys. Seeing them in action with their critical thinking skills paired with years of practice…nothing like my foolish ex.
The Narcissist tries as every turn to do whatever is easiest for him. He has zero regard for anyone else’s time or feelings. Tonight, he wanted to meet up at a different gas station than what is written in our custody agreement. He used the excuse that he would have to get his kids out and that one would be closer to his house. He also tried to spin things like he was doing me a favor being closer to the interstate (a whole two miles closer than the other one where we usually meet. Oh thank you SO much for being so generous. Give me a break.)
Get this…he threatened that if I did not meet at the gas station he wanted to meet at, he would not watch our son a day when I needed him to, that I would have to find and pay for a sitter that day. (Does he not realize that I already pay a sitter? Or that i could have probably called his mother…she would have ended up with my son that day anyway. Especially if there is a basketball game scheduled that day.) We have revised some of our visitation to accommodate my work schedule on the weekends without going through the court system, which was a huge mistake on my part I guess. I actually thought I was doing him and his children a favor by offering the change on the weekends. Yes it accommodated me, but it allowed him to spend more time with our son. The road to hell is paved with good intentions.
What he doesn’t realize is that he has nothing to hold over my head with his threats. He is only hurting himself when he threatens me with ways he will try to make my life difficult. It’s funny though…any time I “refuse to be flexible” for him, he threatens to go back to our original custody agreement. No skin off my teeth. I went to court to have it written that way. If he wants to revert back…not a problem! (All communication with him is being filtered straight to my attorney, so no worries there. All text message conversations are photographed and emailed and all communication and drop offs and pick ups are voice recorded. I take no chances with this loose cannon.)
The kicker to this story is that he stomped his feet and threw a tantrum, and he LIED. He acted as if getting to our original meeting place was going to be a burden on him because he would have his other children with him- Nope. He had only our son in his vehicle. He just had to go the the gas station closest to his house because he didn’t want to miss tipoff of the Kentucky vs Vandy game that is on tonight.
All of my life I’ve heard “what comes around goes around” and like sayings. I’m not really sure it ever does. The evil, mean, nasty, lying, cheating, narcissistic people in the world get to be happy go lucky, and all the good people who are taken advantage of by these people always get that treatment.
And I get to deal with one of those people for 17.25 more years. Help me.