When life gets to be a little to much and you are feeling stressed, how do you deal with it?
Are you a stress eater?
Or do you find that you have no appetite at all?
Do you cry?
Are you a nail biter?
Or do you indulge in “vices” to relieve the stress, like shopping or drinking?
Every person handles stress differently and I have found that even with one person, you may not always handle stress the same in each situation. Back in 2006 I got divorced from my first husband. During that crisis (which I now know was a blessing), I was a stress eater. When I was stressed I would bake. And of course you can’t bake without eating it right? So many of my friends that had went through a divorce lost all kinds of weight, not me. No sir, I was the total opposite and packed on the pounds. Pounds that I am still working to dispose of today.
Another way I have dealt with stress in the past is through shopping. Retail therapy often seems to work….for the moment at least. Even if it’s just a trip to the Dollar Tree for a bottle of nail polish, just that little thing is enough to distract me from what is causing the stress in my life.
Currently I’m dealing with some marital stress. Some events occurred recently which has brought my husband and I to a point in our relationship where some decisions have to be made, either to stay or go. It’s not something I ever thought would happen and it happened very suddenly. Like someone moving a chair out from behind you as you are just getting ready to sit down and get comfortable.
How have I handled this situation? Unlike after my first marriage, I am not stress eating. As a matter of fact its all I can do to eat at all. I am forcing myself to eat each day and forcing myself not to throw it all back up because my stomach is in knots. The one benefit of that is I’m now down 22 pounds in the past month. 22 pounds I really needed to lose anyways so I guess there are some benefits!
But I’m trying to handle this stress in a safe, productive way. How, you might ask? Let me tell you:
1. Praying: My faith has always been a big part of my life. Right now that’s one of the things that is keeping me going each day. Lots and lots of prayer.
2. Friends: I have some amazing friends and co-workers and when I’m down I try to surround myself with people who care about me. They will help me keep my mind off of my current situation, or even just let me talk or cry, if that’s what I need to do.
3. Taking time for myself: I’ve been taking the time lately to do some things for myself. A little pampering and relaxation seems to help.
4. Writing: I have not been writing much on the blog lately but I have still been writing. We don’t usually share really intimate details of our personal lives on here (so even sharing this is a big step for me) so I haven’t been very public about what’s happened. What have I been writing? I have written several letters to my husband…and I mailed them too. When I try to talk about things I usually end up crying so if I can sit down and write out how I feel, it will help him understand and will help me get things off my chest.