The Man and his Blog
Oh what fun it is to find a man you’ve been chatting with is discussing you in his blog. I suppose it is a small dose of “an eye for an eye,” considering I can do the same if I want to. However, when you just happen to stumble upon it, and realize, and confirm…it becomes a bit shocking!
I had been talking with a guy I had met online. I know, I know. It was prior to joining eHarmony, I wanted to trial Match just to check out what is out there. What I found made me want to try eHarmony, if that tells you anything. So we had been texting for two weeks. We had a lot in common, so planned to go to lunch a Sunday afternoon while the baby spent a couple hours with his dad.
This lunch date almost didn’t happen. I told my friend the day before that I wasn’t sure I even wanted to waste my time going. The evening before he had asked via text how I felt about tattoos. Oh dear. To each their own, I don’t judge…but tattoos are just not my cup of tea. I don’t get it. Apparently he loved getting tattoos, but he was a professional business man so “none were visible in a suit shirt.”
Dating a Man and his Blog
Fast forward Sunday lunch…crickets. Zero attraction, zero chemistry. Nada. Conversation lulled…the highlight of the lunch date was that Duke was playing on a screen nearby and the lost. The date didn’t even last an hour and I was dying to get out of there.
I haven’t heard from him since…but he has written about me. He did call me a beautiful lady in his blog. A pretty nice thing to hear about yourself, and the fact that the highlight of the date was Duke losing for him as well. It just is shocking to read about yourself not expecting to.
What is the moral of my story? First, I guess make sure someone you date doesn’t have a blog. But I guess a real piece of advice might be to not text someone or communicate with them too long before meeting if you are online dating. Expectations can be built up only to be disappointed.
And be safe online dating! There are some NUT JOBS out there. Don’t trust any of them. Seriously. Carry pepper spray with you and go out during daylight hours, especially for the first meeting. Research the person-is their Facebook real, look at their friends, look at their wall comments. Do they own a business? Does it have a web page? Is the page real? Do they have a twitter or any other social media? Simply google their name and the town they live in, or any towns they said they have lived in. Arrests and court appearances for the most part are public record. Do your homework!!! Above all else, listen to your gut: if you have a bad feeling, DO NOT second guess it.
Be safe out there!