You never know what goes on in someone’s life behind closed doors. We have all been guilty of passing judgement on someone else, maybe it was thinking “he/she has such a perfect life” or “I can’t believe she would take him back after he….”. Admit it. We’ve all had those thoughts, whether we voiced them or not. But the truth is, we never really know what is going on in someone’s life.
That lady you work with, you know, the one that is always dressed so nice and just seems like she really has it together….maybe her child is in jail. Or maybe she is facing bankruptcy or maybe her family is torn apart for other reasons. What about your friend who’s husband is a drug addict and yet she keeps taking him back over and over again. What about the woman that is childless, how do we know if it was by choice or a fact of nature?
Who are we to pass judgement on someone until we have walked in their shoes?
I have been that woman with the addict husband. I am that woman today. So many people have told me over the years what I “should” do and what I “need” to do. While I appreciate their concern, the truth is no one knows what you would do until you are actually faced with that situation. Often times someone may not share what is going on in their personal life. Earlier this year when my husband and I separated, my co-workers didn’t even know about it for about 2 weeks. No one ever even knew that anything was wrong because I kept my personal life and my work life separate.
I know I’ve been guilty in the past of saying “I would never….(fill in the blank).” But it all comes down to actually being faced with that situation before you can honestly say what you will and will not do. So the next time you start to judge someone else, take a minute to consider what they may be going through that you don’t know about.