I admit that I love ABC’s hit show Scandal. The writing is amazing and draws me in. Every episode I’m glued to the TV, daring my husband to try and talk to me, as I watch the characters that I feel like I know in real life. But with that being said, I have an issue with this show. When did being “the other woman” become acceptable.
Let’s face it ladies. If Olivia Pope, the heroine of Scandal, was your co-worker or neighbor would you be drawn in to every sordid detail of her love affair with a married man and be okay with it? Or would you be talking about her to your friends, about how you think it’s so “scandalous” and wrong and how she is such a “homewrecker”? Most likely, you would be doing the latter. I don’t know of many women that think it’s ok to be “the other woman”.
But in the case of Olivia Pope, America tunes in week after week to follow her love affair with Fitz Grant. I admit, I’m one of those viewers, but as I watch the show I can’t help but feel sorry for Mellie (the wife), even if I do want to dislike her. I’m been in her shoes. I know what it feels like to know that your husband is a lying cheating sack of dog doodoo. And to know that everyone around you knows that too, how embarrassing! My first husband was a philandering, lying, manipulative, sorry excuse for a man. When you wonder who he is talking to or who he is with, every time he is away from you or every time the phone rings, that’s a miserable life. We can all say “I’d never put up with that”, but until you are in that situation, until you’ve lived that life you really don’t know what you would put up with.
I have to admit I also feel sorry for Olivia. What woman hasn’t fallen victim to the lies of a man at some point in their lives? I know I have. That man that makes you feel like you are the most important thing in the world, that he would move Heaven and Earth and do anything to be with you. Maybe it wasn’t a married man that swept you off your feet, but the lies and heartache hurt nonetheless. Maybe you’ve been in a relationship where you knew you needed to walk away and end the relationship, but then there were the phone calls and pleadings for another chance and promises to change. Like Olivia, most of us have been in a situation where we knew we needed to walk away but we just couldn’t.
So my question is, when did becoming “the other woman” become acceptable. Several months ago I wrote this post “When Did It Become Ok to Cheat?”, and in it I discussed how the media and society has portrayed that infidelity is ok and acceptable. I’m not the only one that feels this way either. This blogger also questioned that Homewreckers are Not Heroines.
I’d love to hear from you, our readers. How do you feel about how the media portrays “the other woman” and the idea that infidelity is ok? Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you were “the other woman” or maybe you were the wife at home while your husband was cheating? How did you handle the situation? Did you end the relationship or overlook their indiscretions? Talk to us by commenting below or chatting with us on Facebook or Twitter.